Tuesday, December 19, 2017

Christmas Update

When I was  child, every Christmas my parents would write a Christmas family update letter and send it our to all their friends.  To be honest, at the time, I though it was a bit strange and couldn't really see the value in it, I couldn't see why their friends would be interested in my latest swimming competition or play.  As I am aging though I have started to understand why they did it, it is a nice way, I think, to end the year by telling all those who have shared your life at some point, where you are and what you're doing.

Now, I confess that I do not send Christmas cards, and not really out of any environmental concern, it is just that frankly I do not have the addresses of all my friends who are spread now out across the world. I thought though that my blog is just as good a vehicle as any to deliver a family update. Here you go:

After a few year of back and forth, last September we permanently relocated to Sierra Leone with 3 children in tow (Thea 8, Kenneth 5 and Polly 3.)  Winston has been working for an orphanage called Jonathan's Child Care (JCC) in Bo, where we live, for 18 months. You can read more about the orphanage here: https://www.facebook.com/JonathansChildCareMinistry/..

The orphanage had a school attached to it which all of the children attend, they are doing well and enjoy the social interaction.  Thea is in Class 5 (year 5 equivalent), Kenneth is in Nursery 3 (Reception equivalent) and Polly is in Nursery 1 (Preschool or Nursery equivalent.)

We have recently decided to foster Mabel, a girl from the Jonathan's Child Care orphanage.  She is 17 years old and attends a secondary school in Bo.  She has been a wonderful addition to our family and we all love her, the children are thrilled to have a big sister!

Winston is non-stop busy with JCC, it is great fun and exhausting!  He enjoys the work a great deal and it is such rewarding work for all of us. We feel very blessed by JCC, the children that live there and all those amazing people in the USA who make it possible for it to be there!

I know that many of you know but I am in the process of setting up and registering my own charity to work with children here in Sierra Leone.  I have just been crowdfunding on Go Fund Me to get money together for my st up costs for which I have had an amazing response, it has been so affirming and has given me a great zeal to go forward! You can read more about it at:https://www.gofundme.com/launching-lilomi-for-sierra-leone.  I will keep you all posted on the launch of the charity which I am hoping will be in the first few months of 2018.

After the disappointment of losing our last palm plantation we decided to relocate and make a family farm in a village near to Bo called Lemblema. We have spent the last few months sorting out legal papers, planting fruit trees, sourcing coconut seedlings and planting peanuts.  It is a beautiful place and we are praying for a much more positive farming experience now that we have learnt from the mistakes of our last farming venture.

We will be spending Christmas with our JCC family this year enjoying a Christmas lunch which has been provided for my some of the wonderful American Sponsors and Christmas presents that have been provided by friends of JCC in the UK.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and yours.

With love from Sierra Leone






Thursday, September 4, 2014

Ebola - The Fallout Part 1


Tuesday 19th August was our daughter Thea’s 5th birthday and despite the relentless Ebola crisis and our self-imposed ‘semi-quarantine’ (no one is allowed to leave the compound unless on essential business and have to wash their hands with bleach on their return) we had to celebrate Thea’s birthday in some small way.  Luckily a friend of mine, Kayla, has an oven so I was able to bake a cake for Thea (with ingredients sent by mum – thank you xx) and we were to have said friend and a couple of others round to enjoy it after some Cassava Leaves and rice.  In the morning I had to call the MSF (Medecins sans Frontiers – or Doctors Without Borders) hospital to arrange for my latest check-up. That was where the drama began:

 Please forgive me but I must give a little pregnancy history here.  Both my daughter and son were born by emergency Caesarean Sections.  As this is my third pregnancy with two previous c sections I have no choice but to have a planned c section. Now I can tell you for nothing that doing this in Sierra Leone before the outbreak did not fill me with great joy, medical systems here have been stretched since the war and are yet to recover to anything like what we’re used to in Europe and the US.  However, MSF has a charity hospital near Bo, they have the best standard of maternity care in this region and a high percentage of women go to give birth there so I was resolved that this was our best option.  The plan was to be that I would give birth there and my mum would come to Sierra Leone for some time to help me (although at this time BA had suspended their flights so it was not clear as to whether she would get to come.) I telephoned and the Obstetrician told me that regretfully MSF had to suspend their Maternity services because of the risk of the outbreak.  I cannot describe the feeling of utter dread that came over me.  All the private clinics and hospitals in the country have been closed due to the crisis and the only hospital left open in Bo is the government hospital which had that very morning been looted by people who stole the belongings of the suspected Ebola patients awaiting their test results!  The Obstetrician said that I should go and see him for my final check-up and we could discuss what my options are.  Thankfully all was well with the baby but he said that my options with regards to the caesarean were limited to, well, the government hospital.  He said that he would talk to his manager but she was at that time in a meeting and they would call me later in that day.

I received a call later from the hospital and the lady told me that she wanted to give me some personal advice.  She said that if I can leave Sierra Leone for the birth I should, she said that in the ‘Ebola context’ there was no safe place in the country to have any kind of open surgery.  This is not advice from a Daily Mail reader but from an Infectious Disease expert working in the middle of the outbreak, she said that if she could support me in any way, she would. I relayed the conversation to Winston – we were terrified and devastated in equal measures.  Since the outbreak Winston’s work organizing sand supply to a Chinese company has been stopped because the company pulled out of the country and the nightmare that that contract has been is an entirely different story!  I resolved that we had no choice but to risk it and I give birth at the Bo Government Hospital.


The rest of Thea’s birthday was lovely, we steeled ourselves and were determined that Thea should enjoy her birthday.  Our friends came over and we had a nice meal together including the cake!  We were determined that Ebola was not going to ruin this day for our little girl and it didn’t, we listened to music, danced and enjoyed the company of good people.  It gave us a chance to be thankful for everything that we do have.


 Later that evening we spoke to my parents in London and explained what had happened.  There was no hesitation from them that we must return with their support and they told me that they wished we had done this over a month ago.  They said though when you receive advice like that you cannot ignore it.  Something clicked in me and I realized that of course they were right.  They have given us so much love and support throughout our journey here I hadn’t wanted previously, to ask them for more, despite offers of help from them and my sister I had been very stubborn about asking them for help.

I was happy though we managed to put our troubles away for one day and enjoy our Baby Bear on her birthday.








Sunday, August 10, 2014

Ebola - A Rude Awakening

It is unbelievable the things that people will listen to led by fear and particularly the nonsense that they will follow when told to by so called ‘pastors’ – but that is a separate post entirely!

Winston and I have not been sleeping well, the smallest thing can wake us up and it is then very difficult to get back to sleep, the weight of the situation led by Ebola feels very heavy right now!  On Friday night at around 1.30am we were awoken by our neighbours splitting wood with an axe, right next to our bedroom window, and talking as if it were the middle of the day!  Now the whole of last month, during Ramadan we endured their 4.00am meetings in which they and their friends would gather to eat before they went to pray, and this was no quiet affair I can tell you!  We said nothing to them of this knowing that once Eid had past it would stop.  However, I am exhausted! At my request Winston went to speak to them to explain that we are trying to sleep and could they please desist from making such a noise.  This led to one lady at the house shouting at him at the top of her voice. Now what her counter argument was I cannot tell you because although, I think, I have a good command of Creole, she was talking absolute rubbish.  At this tirade Winston came back inside and as the neighbours quietened down we realized that the entire neighbourhood was awake, it sounded as if it were the middle of the day! Then at around 2.30am Winston’s phone rang, the person said that he was a friend of Winston’s from Bo and he was calling to advise him to get up, heat water, add salt to it and wash with it to stop himself contracting Ebola.  Winston, with much more politeness than I would have managed, thanked him and put the phone down.

Yesterday morning whilst listening to the radio, we learned the truth about what was really going on.  On Friday someone began circulating a text message, supposedly from a Nigerian pastor who is very famous here, his name is T.B Joshua and he is the ‘overseer’ of SCOAN (The Synagogue, Church of All Nations) and has his own t.v channel called Emmanuel.  Allegedly, he made a statement that he had had a message from God that the Ebola outbreak was sent to West Africa as a scourge because of the sins of the people.  In this message from God he was also told that in order to wash ourselves clean of these sins, we must wake up in the middle of the night, heat water (which involves lighting a wood or coal fire here), add salt and wash with it.  If we do this none of us will fall ill with Ebola.  The radio DJ was quite clear that the advice was nonsense and no one should be listening to it.  She also added that T. B. Joshua has denied that this advice did NOT come from him. Many people are now saying that he did in fact say that people should wash with salt water but is now denying it. The DJ did say though that when the outbreak was first announced this pastor or prophet issued a statement that he had 2000 bottles of Holy Water he was willing to sell to those from the affected countries which were Guinea, Sierra Leone and Liberia at the time. Well thank you Mr Joshua, how kind of you to offer for scared people from some of the poorest countries in the world to add to your wealth.  This man claims he is a prophet and he owns a private jet….hmmm. You can read more about him on Wikipedia: 

Hopefully this false advice will be dispelled and we are no longer woken at the same time tonight!




Monday, August 4, 2014

Ebola Terror


I came to Sierra Leone in 2008 with Winston to try our hand at building a life here.  It is now 2014 and we have two children and are expecting a third.  We live in Bo which is about 60 miles away from Kenema (one of the epicenters of the virus.)

I wanted to write a post to let people know what is going on here on the ground and give a little insight as to what it is like to be here with the threat of Ebola looming so close to my family.  I know that in the last week the news of it has blown up internationally and so I do not need to explain to anyone what it is and how horrific it can be, for those who don't know I have put some good links at the end of the post which can tell you all you need to know.

I heard about the virus outbreak in around May when I was trawling the internet for West African news, now initially I was pretty scared - I saw the 1994 Dustin Hoffman film 'Outbreak!'  I began to tell those people who are close to us about it and advise them to stop eating bush meat especially monkey. Most people laughed at the name of the virus and the way their friends mispronounced it, my friend Elvis said 'well the bush meat (monkey, antelope, deer, monkey etc) cannot speak for itself when we eat too much of it so maybe Ebola has come to speak for it.'  No one I spoke to had heard about the virus before and were unconcerned about it's spread.

CDC map of the distribution of the virus - we live in Bo

Posters started to appear about Ebola at doctors surgeries and around town, a Nigerian (or Nollywood) film was released about it - I have not had the pleasure of watching it and I am unlikely to do so, for anyone who has seen a one of these films will understand entirely I am sure, they are loud, poorly acted and terribly produced.  But it began to creep into the public consciousness amid joking warnings about staying away from Guineans coming into the country.

Then we started to hear about the first cases in Kailahun and we knew it was in the country.  Most people still didn't believe it and here are just some of the things I have heard from people's mouths about the outbreak:
  • 'It is not real, like HIV it is made up.  They tell you how easy it is to get HIV and I have slept with hundreds of women without condoms and have never got it.'
  • 'Ebola is just Europeans trying to get body parts of Africans to sell in Europe.'
  • 'There is an election in 2 years so politicians are collecting body parts now for their campaign witchcraft.'
  •  'It is ethnic cleansing of the Mende people' (because it is predominantly in the south which is where the Mende mostly reside)
  • 'The crisis will end on 27th August.'
  • 'A woman had a dream that the Ebola outbreak is a curse brought on by women.'
 One day my daughter, Thea (who is 4) came home from school and recalled to me that they had been told at school by her teachers that some nurses had gone to a school and killed some children by giving them an injection for Ebola.  You may say that a 4 year old is likely to get something like this confused, but what she was told was confirmed to me when I heard it on the lips of all the school children and more and more adults over the next few days.  I later learned that the truth of the story was in fact that some nurses went to a school to give scheduled immunisations for something else entirely. The students ran away from the school (I am sure to add some drama to their day rather than through fear.)  Later the parents of these children went to the school shouting at the teachers and complaining that someone was trying to kill their kids.  My prevailing thought was, in what context is it ever OK to tell this kind of story to children of three and four?

My experience of being here is that people have a flair for the dramatic and like to elaborate or to 'flavour' stories with their own information so trying to get accurate information is very difficult.  I have been relying on some friends who have contacts within The Red Cross and other charities to get accurate numbers because, that is another thing, before it really became international news the local radio was reporting that the death rate was around 50 and the Center for Disease Control (CDC -Centre for Disease Control Website) were reporting figures closer to 100.
The president has declared a Public Health Emergency but to be honest getting information as to what this means is difficult.  The most coherent explanation I have been able to get is as follows:

  • The 'epicenters' of the virus are Kailahun and Kenema.  These area are to be quarantined which means that people in these towns will not be allowed to leave and this will be enforced by the police and the military. Medical staff with the support of the military will go house to house to check for people with Ebola symtoms who will be removed for testing.
  • Bo is not currently quarantined but should any more cases arise from the town, it will be.
  • Countrywide there is to be a ban on public gatherings, this includes churches, mosques, markets, schools etc - the details of this are to be confirmed.
  • Monday 7th August is to be a 'stay at home' day for reflection and prayer.
I have read a lot of information about Ebola since the outbreak began and really, I do not feel that vulnerable to contracting the virus.  We as a family are probably better placed to avoid contraction that most people in the country and for that we are blessed.  My fear now is how people will react, especially in the quarantined areas.  The next week or so will give a good indication though once they start to do the house to house checks.  I have to say I think that it is really the best way forward and the best one that the government had.

This is a scary time for us, one of the worst things to have to do in this situation is to plan for the worst and prepare the answers to very difficult questions in your own head, like; what do I do if one of my children contracts the virus? How could I make my 2 year old son understand that I cannot go near him? How could he understand that I have to leave him in an isolation centre with strangers when he is so ill? I hope and pray that I never have to face these questions but they are a reality for almost every mother and father in the region right now.

We have stocked up on a few essentials, like rice, just in case.  Winston went to town to do this on Friday and it was interesting to me.  The people that sell rice in Bo (and most of the country) are the Lebanese.  They are generally the richest people here, in one of the poorest countries in the world and what did they do the day the President declared a medical emergency?  They increased their prices by the hour throughout the day.  OK, so this is basic economics but it still galls me that some of the poorest people in the world should have to suffer further in these circumstances.

The last word really has to go to those medical and support staff who are here to help in this dire situation.  Can you imagine leaving the safety of your own country to enter such a perilous situation, frankly I can’t.  Until now I had never given much thought to that, but now I appreciate the sacrifice that they are making.  The people working for Medicins sans Frontiers (MSF) or Doctors without Borders, Samaritans Purse, the Centre for Disease Control (CDC) and all those who have come here to help, you are frankly heroic.  It seems some of these people have faced hostility and in some instances violence from people here, and still you have stayed. I can’t say I would have done the same, thank you.


So here we are now, planning for the worst but hoping for the best :)